Trying not to Hover
Aug. 31st, 2009 07:00 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
primsongFinally got my beautiful, wonderful daughter off to college - she's officially settled into her apartment and well content with her two roomies... nice little place, backs to a park while right there in the city. Watched lots of parents and a few students in varying states of separation anxiety on move-in day. My goal has always been to NOT be a "helicopter parent" that hovers over the offspring, I can only hope my attempts to launch her in a healthy way worked - caught me a bit off-guard how *hard* it was just to walk away from her that afternoon, like some huge alien magnet was taking over my feet and trying to drag me back.
Missing her like mad! Popped very briefly yesterday to drop off a needed bookcase and said I missed her...she said "But it's only been three days!" in disbelief... oh how different it is from this end! But I remember, yes I do. I barely looked back at my parents when I finally moved to college, I was so ready to fly on my own. I was so glad to have 'my own space'. I remember, and I understand, and we'll be fine - all of us.
Still. I miss her, her smile, her voice, her music - though I am so very glad and grateful for what she has going and for the years we got to have her in our home. One more new season to adjust to in life, we'll be better once the school routine starts up again and all of us are as busy as she is. Life goes on!
Missing her like mad! Popped very briefly yesterday to drop off a needed bookcase and said I missed her...she said "But it's only been three days!" in disbelief... oh how different it is from this end! But I remember, yes I do. I barely looked back at my parents when I finally moved to college, I was so ready to fly on my own. I was so glad to have 'my own space'. I remember, and I understand, and we'll be fine - all of us.
Still. I miss her, her smile, her voice, her music - though I am so very glad and grateful for what she has going and for the years we got to have her in our home. One more new season to adjust to in life, we'll be better once the school routine starts up again and all of us are as busy as she is. Life goes on!
