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primsongI really, really hate laws that keep people from saying plainly what is happening.
The parents and staff of our school are in turmoil because the ones who had to remove our principal *can't* say why they did so without opening themselves up to a potential lawsuit due to confidentiality of personnel issues. Normally I would say confidentiality is a good thing, but what a wreck it is causing now.
It now appears that for lack of 'the information that cannot be said' they are assuming our trustees were acting out of malice (why??) and just got rid of this well-loved person for no reason. In their eyes, this charismatic leader could do no wrong. I had a parent go almost apoplectic on me yesterday, literally yelling at me and waving her arms about it until someone else intervened, making her run out the door still hollering angrily. All I did was not agree that there was deceit and told her they had good reasons... and there I had to stop as those reasons cannot be stated. Arrrrgh!
The one person who could end this mess by just standing up and 'fessin up about it all just watches it go by. Never says a word at any of the meetings, just accepts all the "you poor thing" attention as if she were a martyr. I've admired her for years, but right now my respect for her is gone, though I also pity her if she is this far gone with pride, to the point that she would allow all she helped work for for a dozen years be attacked in the name of defending/avenging her.
In the meantime it is trickling down to the children in the school, and my kids are being verbally attacked for refusing to agree that the church board is "bad and mean" for taking that step. My friend's kids whose dad is on the trustees board have had kids tell them "Sorry, but we're not allowed to be your friend any more." How childish can parents be? Worse than their children!
I know this will pass, that the school will survive. I think this is a good thing in the end, for by it we are rid of a mess and are the better for it, but it sure hurts getting that old rotten tooth pulled.
How have you dealt with confidentiality gagging?
The parents and staff of our school are in turmoil because the ones who had to remove our principal *can't* say why they did so without opening themselves up to a potential lawsuit due to confidentiality of personnel issues. Normally I would say confidentiality is a good thing, but what a wreck it is causing now.
It now appears that for lack of 'the information that cannot be said' they are assuming our trustees were acting out of malice (why??) and just got rid of this well-loved person for no reason. In their eyes, this charismatic leader could do no wrong. I had a parent go almost apoplectic on me yesterday, literally yelling at me and waving her arms about it until someone else intervened, making her run out the door still hollering angrily. All I did was not agree that there was deceit and told her they had good reasons... and there I had to stop as those reasons cannot be stated. Arrrrgh!
The one person who could end this mess by just standing up and 'fessin up about it all just watches it go by. Never says a word at any of the meetings, just accepts all the "you poor thing" attention as if she were a martyr. I've admired her for years, but right now my respect for her is gone, though I also pity her if she is this far gone with pride, to the point that she would allow all she helped work for for a dozen years be attacked in the name of defending/avenging her.
In the meantime it is trickling down to the children in the school, and my kids are being verbally attacked for refusing to agree that the church board is "bad and mean" for taking that step. My friend's kids whose dad is on the trustees board have had kids tell them "Sorry, but we're not allowed to be your friend any more." How childish can parents be? Worse than their children!
I know this will pass, that the school will survive. I think this is a good thing in the end, for by it we are rid of a mess and are the better for it, but it sure hurts getting that old rotten tooth pulled.
How have you dealt with confidentiality gagging?
