A bit of a shock -
Apr. 9th, 2007 06:19 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
primsongJust found out that my father was watching a polo game on Sunday and had a heart-attack.... it wasn't his first... he's gone.... He has not been a daily presence in my life since I was a kid, but we always wrote, emailed and exchanged gifts as distant friends might - my brother and I are making what arrangements we can now to find out what is happening with his dog, his store, his friends. Police tracked info to my ex-step-mom, who gave them my info as next of kin. Not much mourning yet, just trying to deal with all the details.
Looks like tomorrow I may have my second shot at being a witness in court, then may be going to Maui to help my brother tend to my father's estate - both of us are somewhat clueless. What a spring! I am just so thankful that we managed to get over to Maui to visit him this past September, that he had a chance to meet his grandchildren and they met him before he was gone.
Anyone with advice on how to deal with an estate when it was someone who you hardly knew the private life of living far away from you, do pipe up.
Looks like tomorrow I may have my second shot at being a witness in court, then may be going to Maui to help my brother tend to my father's estate - both of us are somewhat clueless. What a spring! I am just so thankful that we managed to get over to Maui to visit him this past September, that he had a chance to meet his grandchildren and they met him before he was gone.
Anyone with advice on how to deal with an estate when it was someone who you hardly knew the private life of living far away from you, do pipe up.
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Date: 2007-04-11 05:58 pm (UTC)As for the estate, listen to the attourney. He has the ear of the legal system for the state and they are not concerned about emotions, only what the Law says.
Concerning your Dad: Listen to the people who knew him. Through their stories you will learn about a side of your Dad that you did not know. My Dad and I were never close......yet it was through the stories and experiences of those he associated with daily, that I discovered how similar we were. I don't know your Dad's Spiritual condition but assuming he was/is a beleiver then the loss is only temporary and when you meet again he will be completely different because he will have been transformed into perfection and you will have the rest of eternity to be together. As for the mourning, it will come in earnst about 3 weeks after the funeral. Just be prepared to set a week aside for yourself. No kids, no husband, just you and the Lord. Speaking from experience here, both first hand and as a Pastor.
Pob Bendith
( ancient Gaelic for, "Every Blessing To You"
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